Oct 19, 2012

Feminine Friday: She Speaks With Wisdom And Kindness

Our ninth Feminine Behavior - we have two more still to come - is "She speaks with wisdom and kindness." This is obviously a virtue for all women and wives but I am specifically going to focus today on how this can be applied to us as mothers. As a mother of three, I so very often deeply desire to speak with wisdom and kindness to my little ones but I know I regularly fail. It's easier said than done but let's delve into this pertinent topic together and see if we can't take something away to apply today.

Our verse this week is Proverbs 31:26:

"She openeth her mouth with wisdom;
and in her tongue is the law of kindness."
Another translation to consider:
"When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness."
According to the Strong's Concordance, another possible word that would describe the message of the word wisdom could be prudence. I think prudence is a great way to explain this. One definition of the word prudence is using discretion. As a mother, dealing with the most crazy of questions, most wild of behavior, and most foul of messes is sometimes an hourly part of our job description. At the end of the day breakfast, I may be tempted to say something harsh or unkind to my children in one of those smelly, messy, or stressful moments. This verse is reminding us that we must choose to use discretion in our words to all people but most certainly our children.
In the second half of this verse, the word law means instruction or possibly even mannerism. This could be phrased She imparts knowledge of kindness or she habitually speaks words of kindness. Some words that are synonymous for kindness are: compassion, generosity, affection, courtesy, gentleness, grace, patience, and thoughtfulness. These are all characteristics that we desire others to possess who come in contact with our children. Likewise, these are characteristics that we desire to cultivate in our children. A mother who wishes to instruct her children in kindness must be speaking with wisdom and kindness.
"What you say flows from what is in your heart."
Luke 6:45b (NLT)
Thus in conclusion today I will leave us with this verse which "hits the nail on the head" so-to-speak about why we sometimes struggle to maintain composure or use discretion or impart kindness. The practical and pointed truth of this verse reminds us that it is not the daily chaos or the actions or lack of actions from others that cause us to lose our kindness but it is an underlying issue of the heart. It's a daily process of allowing Him to shape my heart so that His ways will flow from my heart into my words, attitudes, and actions.

For more on this series: Feminine Behaviors - 1) She Is Trustworthy, 2) Helpful and Attentive, 3) She Willingly Works Hard, 4) She Is Resourceful, 5) She Is Self-Sacrificing, 6) She Spends Wisely, 7) Generous and Hospitable, and 8) She Anticipates and Prepare.

1 comment:

  1. Great post, Shari. My daily prayer is that the Lord will put the "law of kindness" on my tongue.
    Hope you have a wonderful weekend. :)


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