Hold up! You mean forget about the kids and don't take care of them and their
No, that's not what I'm saying. I'm simply saying that the foundation of your home should be in Christ. Then a strong structure is formed as you build up your marriage, combining both to offer a sturdy home to your offspring. So you can care for your children during the day and go to work and enjoy family devotions and mealtimes, but with each early morning prayer together as a couple or date night or sitting together reading a book, you prioritize and invest in your marriage which strengthens the structure of your family. If you constantly forgo time with your spouse prioritizing other things, especially for those who consider their children to be more important than their marriage, your foundation gets wobbly. That negatively affects your children.
There are other ways to prioritize your marriage over your parenting duties. You can work together to present a united front concerning rules and consequences in your home (its not "good cop vs. bad cop" its more of a "sheriff and his deputy" ☺). You can purpose to speak kindly and uplifting about your spouse in front of your children. You can show affection toward each other in front of your children. You can teach your children not to interrupt when you and your spouse are having a conversation so as to prioritize your communication within your marriage therefore building your marriage. You see? It actually benefits your kids.
The truth is, Casey and I work so much (mostly Casey gone at work and me at home with our children) that we haven't made a date night a priority in our marriage. The sad part is that we both know that it is a vital part of our marriage to be purposefully investing in. However, we haven't really had the money or the time or even a babysitter so it just hasn't been happening. We can attempt to have home dates but in our family, Casey goes to bed rather early due to needing to be at his job at 6am most days and our home life becomes distracting. We have decided as a couple that going out even for a walk or to sit at Starbucks is far more useful because we can be much more relaxed and purposeful in focusing our attention on each other and our marriage. So we have decided to start putting a date night into our budget so we can build our marriage to withstand the daily frustrations of life.
Will you join me today in investing in our marriages to offer the world the light of Christ, our children a steady and strong structure for their families, and our marriages the love and attention they deserve instead of being just a title or a certificate on the wall? And, if you live in the Kansas City area of MO, give me a shout out if you know of any awesome babysitters!
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